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So are you their Mr Right?

According to AsiaOne News:

THEY are attractive, well-educated, have good careers and are financially independent.

They have gone through several relationships. And yet…

Singapore women like them occupy space on the mind of Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong, who devoted a substantial portion of last Sunday’s National Day Rally speech to their plight – and its impact on a society’s procreation problem.

Reason: They are into their late 20s – and still single.

Why?

Read the full article at AsiaOne News

- Let me summarize the article in point form.

What these ladies don’t like about their ex-bf

  1. he left all the wedding preparation to my parents and me.
  2. too possessive and he didn’t like that I was outgoing.
  3. those that gossip and bitch endlessly, like san gu liu po (nosy relatives).
  4. Control freaks – like my ex-fiance – also put me off. (again)
  5. as long as we don’t fool around, I don’t feel you should demand that your partner reports your every movement.

Ladies’ ideal partner is

  1. financially stable
  2. it’ll definitely help if we don’t have to worry about bills before the next pay-day.
  3. he must also have time for me and the family
  4. doesn’t have to be drop-dead gorgeous, just pleasant to the eye
  5. don’t stop me from being myself.

I am a single guy now but hesitate to even look at a local girl for future marriage because of the following.

  1. Many don’t know how to cook
  2. Many are just like me, a freedom seeker
  3. Many loves “rich” boyfriends and may leave you anytime.
  4. Many looks down on “ordinary” boyfriends.

Basically, I wish to love somebody who are willing to love back unconditionally…able to go through thick and thin regardless of situation.

Money is not everything, she may need to get the enlightenment that money can’t buy happiness. In Singapore, probably only 10% of the guys here are truly well off and they likely play all the girls everywhere…with their million dollar sports car.

I understand that some girls are smarter then the guys but I don’t like those who over exert their superiority over the guy in a simple discussion and practice the “you are always wrong” mantra that my mum always use.

My parents are divorced because lacked of understanding during the 80′s economic crisis when my dad lost his jobs and remain jobless for sometime. My mum will always nag at him non-stop regardless if he say anything or not.

My father usually will simply keep quiet and walk away closing the door behind him without saying anything.

My mum never listen…my dad never talk, end of relationship after many years of marriage.

(My dad now is a well paid construction foreman and remarried with a loving wife, my mum remains single and broke until now)

There is one common solution that is to import oversea females to marry the guys here, they are much more willing to work hard together with the guy to tide over difficult challenges together. Listens to the guy’s problems and understands their position in life.

Bonus is they are used to the hard life, they are willing to do the dishes and cleaning up without complains. Of course, I won’t let the girl wash the dishes alone…but hardship are part and parcel of life….it takes great love to pull each other together and to death till us part.

Singapore females are generally more in number versus the guys in numbers so it’s unfortunate that they are getting less and less options if they slammed their doors even before it’s being knocked.

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26 August 2008 at 17:10 - Comments
  • Jimmoo
    Yo, why is the picture of the cat doing in this section of the blog ? Are you saying you rather have a cat than a woman :-)
  • Jimmoo
    I am posting the comments of one of my friend Jolynn.

    She wants me to tell you this,

    ‘Not all Singapore gals are like that, we are brought up in Singapore competitive society, all gals want the assurance. We have been assured by the government that everything is ok even though the economy is not good. Soon we learn that in order to survive in Singapore, we need a rich husband but being able to earn their own keep, gals don’t depend on guys anymore although the saying “my money is my money and yr money is still my money” still stands.But is really so that as a couple we doesn’t have to worry about houeshold bills. Furthermore gals then to spend more with the need to upkeep themselves so that their husband/ boyfriend looks good when he’s with her.Ee are all educated.. therefore, we have our own friends and require our own time. You guys wont like it too if we control too much too.. or expect you to report your every movement. Talking about equality.. you should share the responsibilites of the wedding preparations and hsehold chores etc.. both of us are working, so if I can do it.. why can’t you ? .
    tell tat to Mr Simon Tay ok ! ‘
  • Simon Tay
    Notice I did not disagree with the article.

    Love preceded everything so money is not important in a relationship if it’s “strong”.

    I love freedom hence will give freedom too…hassle to control others so much haha. The important thing is to have trust, sincerity and honesty.

    I will love to enjoy each others company instead of arguing. Confrontation is not my best traits…hence like my father…I always listens and rationalize.
  • Simon Tay
    I don’t marry a gal who loves to do housework…I like a girl who “don’t mind” a dirty house for 2 weeks before cleaning it together on weekends. :)

    Of course routines like cleaning dishes and rubbish clearing can be “on time on target” do it when free by both party.

    Does marriage = debts? nope…if both party agreed to spend within budget. True Love does not means spending foolishly and later to blame each other for the “debts” incurred during the marriage.

    These money “problems” often makes unrepairable cracks in the relationship in the very beginning.

    What kind of marriage starts with problems may not last very long…so why do people still spend more then they can afford for marriage that does not last?

    I love keeping it simple and invest the money on money making ideas instead of making the marriage organizer filthy rich.